Conflict and provocation are inevitable in relationships and marriage
Both husbands and wives sometimes push each other’s buttons, but what truly matters is our response to these moments. Dear husbands, if you find yourself in a cycle of anger or aggression, it’s time to take a step back. Instead of blaming your wife, focus on improving your own reactions. Remember, your spouse isn’t disposable, and challenges are a part of every relationship.
Some men believe their abusive behavior is a result of the kind of wife they married, thinking their spouse’s actions forced them into aggression. They often assume they’re simply unlucky, while men who don’t abuse their wives have partners who “never provoke them”
While it’s true that some personalities can be challenging and even provoke frustration, there are far better ways to handle these situations. Anger may feel justified, but it should never lead to violence.
Consider working on managing your temperament. Seek support, whether through counseling, community resources, or faith. Pray for patience, wisdom, and the ability to navigate challenges with grace. Lift up your wife in prayer as well. The journey to a peaceful home requires both prayer and intentional action.
Violence doesn’t solve anything—it only breaks what could be healed. Be the gentle and compassionate man God intended you to be, and let your home be a testament to patience and love.
